Damage

I heard someone say that a person is 'damaged.'
I think it's a good expression about people who are traumatized.

I think the important thing is not the act of sharing the secret.
It's about telling yourself that it's ok to tell others about it.
That you have suffered enough that you don't need to keep it a secret anymore.

On a completely unrelated subject,
'Plastic Fang' by the Jon Spencer Blues Explosion is fucking outstanding.